Sons and daddy dating

My question stands—should mothers be “dating” their sons?Should we have mother-son dances in the same way that we have daddy-daughter dances? I’d love to hear your input because I have yet to hear an explanation that truly makes sense to me.

I have a powerful paternal love for my daughter, but, if she ever needs instruction on how she should be treated by a loved one in the future, I’m confident that all she’d need to do is see how I treat my wife or how our friends and family treat their significant others and those lessons would become apparent.

(One of those differences is that no one ever uses the term “mommy-son date.”) It seems like mother-son time together revolves around hanging out, while people often feel the need to structure father-daughter time around the format and iconography of actual dating. HOWEVER, daddy-daughter dates DO often ape their structure from the kinds of dates that boys and girls might go on in high school, like a Homecoming date, or a fancy-dress night on the town with one’s spouse.

Now, let me cut you off here, I am NOT saying that there is anything ROMANTIC about father-daughter dates. And mother-son “dates” don’t generally use the same structure. This leads into category #2 in defense of father-daughter dates—“I take her on dates to show her how she should be treated by the men in her life.” Again, I am not here to argue whether that is a valid or invalid point, but I will note that I can’t think of any time when those roles are traditionally flipped and mothers do something similar with their sons. Dad-daughter date advocates often say things like “I open doors, I tell her she’s special, I bring flowers” to demonstrate how they’re using the date structure to show their daughters how they should expect to be treated by other men. Do the moms need to let their sons open doors or pay for the meal? ) There’s this thing in our society where it’s socially acceptable for fathers to be held up as the “ideal men” for their daughters, but mothers aren’t supposed to be the “perfect women” for their sons.

(Don’t even get me started on the “Purity Balls” where daughters “pledge” their virginity and “purity” to their fathers.

Can anyone show me ANY example of an institution where sons pledge their “purity” to their mothers?

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