Professional black women dating white men
I actually had occasion to ask this of a black woman—a professional colleague of mine. I was a money market trader at the time, and she was a bond trader at Salomon Bros., the major broker-dealer.
I’m white; she was black—and making a 6-figure income about five times what mine was.
The next day, when I talked with my 0,000-a-year bond trader from the office, I thanked her for coming to the party, and told her what a great guy her boyfriend was, and how much I enjoyed him. She explained that, although he’s a “good guy,” he wasn’t of her “class,” or at her “level,” or whatever she said.And while of course the topic of race should be an ongoing conversation with your significant other, things would go a lot smoother if men — — were able to identify and prevent racial tension from the very beginning.To be blunt: White guys, you often approach black women in a harmful way.White men navigate society with relative ease while black women are teetering on the precarious margins of race and gender that they do not have the privilege to ignore.This is not a game to us, nor is it something we can ignore.