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I think if anyone feels trapped in a relationship, it’s because they felt trapped in their relationship with mom or dad, whatever gender they are attracted to, growing up.
So to me the real point of the book is that we have these beliefs and constructs in our heads that keep us from happiness—monogamy and non monogamy, men and women.
Now, he is someone who doesn’t fear commitment or intimacy as revealed in his latest book The latest installation follows Strauss from cheating, to sex addiction therapy, to polyamory, to swinging, to setting up a love commune, to hiking Macchu Picchu with a sore, overused penis, to enlightenment and—finally—to monogamy and his own wedding.
is a well-written book, and a hard one to put down.
For somebody who grew up taking care of a parent, versus the parent taking care of you, you start to give yourself worth through taking care of needy people.
Sounds Osho-like: do you really need to lose yourself to find yourself?
People always ask me what’s the advice I would give to a 20-year old, and the advice is: no piece of advice I can give, or very few, is really going to change you.
In the words of a geneticist you speak to in the book: “a woman can never be perfect enough for a man not to want to cheat on her”? The geneticist I talk to in the book was really talking about himself.
It comes from a certain parental upbringing that I shared also.