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Now, roughly five years of post-college dating has got me rethinking that original conviction—specifically, the five years of seeing the same guy show up on Jswipe, then Bumble with a little purple Jewish star icon to indicate on this secular dating app that he’s NJB (Nice Jewish Boy), and that same guy messaging, scheduling a drink, and then flaking, sometimes trying to reschedule in a half-assed way, sometimes not.I don’t mean to imply that such frustrating dating experiences are exclusive to courtship within the Jewish pool.Golin pointed out that “if you’re going to talk about millennials and the younger generation, half or more of them who consider themselves Jewish are from intermarried families.”The same Pew Research Center study that showed the intermarriage rate for non-Orthodox Americans Jews at over 70 percent also revealed that a solid 59 percent of Americans aged 18 to 29 from intermarried families (where one parent is Jewish and one is not) identifies as Jewish.As someone who is intermarried and currently raising her children Jewish, Riley certainly makes it seem like that Jewish family is viable.The message of Sex and The City, and romantics and pragmatists alike is: you love who you love.Follow that and don’t be constrained by any boundaries.As I attend my family’s synagogue and notice the young broods, sticky with pieces of apple and honey (traditional Rosh Hashanah food for a sweet new year), I cannot imagine a happy future without these milestones.Then again, dating and marrying someone who is not Jewish is not necessarily mutually exclusive with such a future.
Their lives are so transient.”If your religion isn’t playing a significant (or any) role in your social life, it doesn’t necessarily make sense that the romantic partner you pick at this time would share your religion.
“If you wait until you’re 36 to get married, your folks are just so happy you’re getting married.”He even sensed a change of heart in his grandmother when she met his then-girlfriend, now-wife, who is of Japanese heritage.
After meeting her at a family event, his grandma, who was hard of hearing, shouted, “‘Japan saved some Jews during the war,’” Golin recalled.
If you’re judging people for their race, their religion, or or their socioeconomic status, you’re the worse for it—except when it comes to who you marry.
I felt that was a very hypocritical message growing up.”Golin said his family’s views on his marrying outside the Jewish faith had significantly changed by the time he walked down the aisle “Here’s a secret,” he told me with a laugh.