Dating your older boss
It was of no consequence whether we were tucking into eggs benedict at 11 or 11.30, but she interpreted my concern for my son as disregard for her.I saw her irritability as evidence that she was a narcissistic psycho. You wouldn’t want to go out with a man who put you before the needs of his kids.All it requires to successfully date a dad is to follow a few simple protocols and have a bit of patience.The same rules apply in reverse if you are a man keen on a woman who has children.I’ve heard some employers factor SAT scores into their hiring decisions. I think SAT prep institutions are feeding this SAT frenzy so they can continue charging and justifying rates that are so high that some parents have to take out second mortgages just to get their kids into college.
Having said that, be wary of a man who is always offering up the kids as an excuse not to spend time with you.
Throw dad’s new girlfriend into the mix and it just adds more uncertainty to their lives. Too many people push new partners into their kids’ lives in a bid to normalise things, where instead a more circumspect approach is prudent. Of course, children of different ages need different approaches, but when it comes to discipline, for the most part leave it to dad.
At some point the children will become curious about who dad is dating if it looks like it is going to be an ongoing affair. Over time, if you win their respect and affection, you can offer counsel to his kids.
I’m very attracted to one of the partners, and he seems attracted to me.
He is getting divorced, and I don’t think he would take this any further than flirting — because he probably fears being rebuffed and exposed to a lawsuit — but I welcome it.