Dating for six months
A situation where you begin to feel like the person has no life other than you can sometimes feel like a lot of pressure.
Overall, the message here is enjoy what you are experiencing in the early stages of a relationship, enjoy being with someone new and enjoy getting to know someone else and what they have to offer you when it enhances your life experience.
In the first six months, we allow ourselves to be emotionally open. When you start fighting with each other, however, we take something back.
Are the first six months just that “amazing” time before all the arguments start and before we get defensive?
At the same time, it is important to be aware that you are in a state of arousal, primed for excitement and full of hope so caution and reality checking is always important to keep things in perspective.
For clients I see who are navigating the first six months of a relationship I always encourage them to consider and be aware of the following six things to keep them on track and in contact with the realities of the situation and, importantly, to ensure they are attending to their individual needs and not getting locked into attending only to the needs of the ‘other’.
Finding out what your potential partner wants in a relationship is a critical part of the process. Does a long-term commitment fit in their idea of the future?
Assumptions can make great relationships end disastrously.
Make sure you ask questions that need to be asked, check about what is real and notice any inconsistencies that says this is not the relationship for me.The first stage of “romance” is a stage I call the “bliss bubble”.You are both caught up in an impenetrable bubble as if no one or nothing else in the world matters.Dopamine stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure.Its affect on the brain has been compared to the stimulant cocaine!